Not Everyone Will Like You
By clicking this blog you have either discovered that someone doesn’t like you, or you just want to read the story of a girl with every few friends. Well you’re in for a good one today. The words ‘not everyone will like you’ are some of the worst words you can hear from anyone.
When I was assigned this topic, to blog for my internship I actually laughed, because I thought someone was trying to play a cruel trick on me. My mom has told me these words all throughout my life because I have always struggled with fitting in and making friends. And as much as I hate to admit it, these words are completely true. Not everyone will like you, no matter how hard you try to be the perfect person, someone will not like you. And you might never know why.
I have spent countless hours on crying over the mean girls in high school, wondering why they don’t accept me and treat me differently. The dumb truth is, they won’t matter in the future. These girls and their “fabulous” cliques won’t matter when you’re out in the world achieving your dreams and kicking ass.
One thing my mom, who is one of my best friends, likes to remind me that the reason girls are mean is actually not my fault at all. When someone doesn’t like you it’s because they see something in you that they wish they had. Whether it’s your talent, body shape, happiness, or personality. The person that doesn’t like you sees that thing in you and they want it. But they can’t have it so they take that frustration out on you by not liking you. It’s a completely ridiculous thing that happens. It makes girls sad and upset but most of the time the girls that are mean don’t even see they are being that way. So it’s not always their fault, they can’t help it. You just have so much awesomeness they can’t handle it.
Not everyone will like you, but a lot of people do like you. Now think back to a time in your life, a break-up, a stressful time in school, the ACT, or a funeral. Think of the people who helped you through it. Those are your real friends, the people that really truly care for you. The people who will be there for you until the very end. These are the friends you should put your energy into, not the people who are fake and don’t give you the time of day. These friends are the people who know your favorite color or know that you don’t like mint chocolate ice cream. The people who know your favorite artist and the ones who would do anything for you. When you get into fights with these people, they will still be there for you the next day.
So stop thinking of the people who don’t like you, because even though they are missing out on your amazing heart, at the end of the day they don’t deserve you. The people who don’t like you may never like you, and that’s okay. You are perfect just the way you are, and you don’t need to please everyone. The only approval you need has to come from within. You have to learn to love and accept yourself before you can accept that not everyone will like you. I know that is a very scary concept but it’s true. To accept yourself you need to love every flaw you have, because that’s what makes you, you. Loving yourself can be tricky at times. It needs to happen because you have to love yourself before you can truly love someone else.
Not everyone will like you and it’s their loss. The people that like you are the ones who matter, so don’t forget to thank them for all they have done. And remember it’s quality not quantity. You only need a few amazing friends. So next time the group of friends that never include you hang out, don’t let it bother you. Just put in a movie, invite your real friends, and have a blast.
Until next time, Maya.